The Sugar Daddy Dialogue

So I had a conversation today with a male friend of mine, a facebook chat so not face to face, and I’ll say he’s not someone who knows me too well, certainly not the full idealistic, puritanical, pedantic side…. but anyway when we got to discusses the excruciatingly extortionate cost of carnival costumes this year, and the fact that feathers in a band with the theme of wings, are now at a premium, he suggested finding me a ‘Sugar Daddy’. 

Needless to say my independent feminist side was aghast, and my initial response was ‘no way’!  But then I got to thinking, ‘what if he has a friend or acquaintance who’d be my perfect match?’ (Did I mention my high level of optimisim??) 

So I laid out my requirements…usual things…age, fitness, attractiveness, sense of humour…so he asked ‘married or single, or doesn’t it matter?’  I stipulated ‘single’ in no uncertain terms and he seemed to get a bit pensive, then he said, “Do u really expect to find that kinda guy in this day and age?” and from then on the conversation was pretty much over, with expressions of ‘good luck’ etc. thrown in.  He clearly thought I was bordering on insanity to even expect to meet someone prepared to have an exclusive relationship, and we didn’t even get to the ‘L’ word.

So that is apparently where we’ve reached.  A woman over forty, or I suspect even over thirty, should expect to share a man with goodness only knows how many other women in exchange for monetary gain, if she’s really lucky….and if she’s not so fortunate... in exchange for occasional ahem 'love making' (and I’m assuming the added bonus of STDs)!  Expecting any more appears to be considered almost certifiable. 

Fortunately, in my case I’m armed with eternal optimism.  I do also know of a number of men who I have on good authority, are actually absolutely single (for now) and have a number of admirable qualities.  I am pretty content being single; however, at times I do crave the comfort of a relationship.  So I will retain my high hopes for humanity and believe that the next man I start a relationship with will, in fact, be single, available and have some truly lovable qualities.